I began to collect jewellery as souvenirs. Rather than something that sits on a shelf, each piece of jewellery gets my attention when I pick it up and put it on – and I start my day thinking happy thoughts of the person or place connected to it.

Living in-between isn’t a bad thing! But it is a significant aspect of what TCK childhood looks like for many, and the trends shown in this infographic suggest it will continue to grow in significance as the 21st century continues.

TCKs are caught between places, people, cultures, and experiences. So often they are not quite present, not quite accepted, not quite at home. Most do not identify entirely with one country – they are influenced by, and attached to, multiple countries at once. While TCKs may know they are ‘foreigners’ in their host countries, they may feel even more ‘foreign’ when visiting their passport countries.

When you meet a TCK with a tattoo, consider the deeply held feelings it may represent - all the unspoken words and unshared feelings that lie behind that ink. Their connection to the place, people, and language it represents is as tangible and permanent as the tattoo - even if they can’t see or express it in their current life. It is love they have etched in their skin.

When you’re living in limbo, you’re in an intermediate state, and you don’t know how long it will last. You’re stuck. You can’t make decisions. Uncertainty is a difficult state to live in. It’s hard to plan for the future when you don’t know what’s coming. It’s hard to enjoy the moment when you know it could change. Impermanence isn’t a place where you can be at ease.

Both immigrant kids and traditional TCKs share the conflict of expectation to connect to their parents’ cultures, while living in a different culture. This means many can identify with each other struggles in this area, such as accusations of “betraying” one culture by attaching to the other (and perhaps vice versa).

We want to do it all and be busy and fix things. While we do need the forward momentum of this activity, if we live in a constant state of ‘pushing through’ then chances are the stress we ignore will catch up with us eventually. Doing transition slowly, with care and kindness, is healthier in the long term.

Change is an event. Transition is the process of anticipating and integrating that change. Change is concrete. It is the moment in time when I go from this to that, here to there. But we still often underestimate the full impact of a change. A period of transition continues until I am accustomed to and comfortable with my post-change life – when I have integrated those changes and my situation changes from “new” to “normal”. As you might imagine, sometimes this can take a long, long time.

While many TCKs have experienced the feeling of being misunderstood, it doesn’t have to be that way. The goal of the work I do is building bridges of understanding between people who care about each other, but see the world differently.

Over time the child adapts to the school’s cultural expectations. As the child spends more time in the school's worldview, their attitude may shift as they absorb elements of the school culture. These changes are natural. Cross cultural schooling means your child is being trained to see the world differently than you do.

Every culture has a different philosophy of education; what is considered normal and acceptable is relative. The wellbeing of children is important to parents and teachers alike. We may have different ideas of what wellbeing looks like and how to get there, which can be frustrating and even hurtful. But remember, we are on the same team, if not on the same page.

The pain we feel at saying goodbye is a good sign – it means we love something, or someone. It’s much better to have a life full of love, even though that means it hurts to say goodbye, than to be all alone everywhere you go.

There are lots of ways to have a cross-cultural childhood, and often these different experiences overlap. Thus it is vitual that we discuss cross-cultural intersectionality: the overlap of multiple cross-cultural identities. Not just a TCK, but also…